The letters of distorted families and their comprehensive answers;Must send the replying envelope with complete address written on it and do not make haste to have reply of latter.

To be in seclusion: I did not feel before but now I feel that my face feature show that I am in anger. I want so much money that it makes faces good or I want to be away from the society. (Kashif, Lahore)

Suggestion: smile is the beauty and you do not need the money for this beauty. It’s just a word but when you act upon it your loved ones come near to you and even unknown do not remain strangers. It does not only make your face good but also your personality and the life as well. People who stay happy and smile, they stay away from the depression, if you start smiling then you will not be in need of solitude.

Second marriage: my son was 5 years old when I was divorced by my husband I was unable to bear that he was going to arrange his second marriage, 12 years has passed now. My parents who gave me shelter they have passed from this world. And I had to get married, my son lived with my friend, later we call him. He is very sad here, he could not complete his education, and he feels as alien in our house, despite my husband does say anything to him. The purpose of second marriage was to have the shelter and to save the son from the lack of fatherhood.

Suggestion: one child has seen himself as the center of all attention until the age of youth. He cannot accept the partition in this love of mother until his feelings and emotions are given any productive turn, because, boy is in an age when feelings burst as seas. In this situation there are more chances of going astray for the children of broken families. The fruitful method is to draw them near to religion to make them obedient and noble. He can be sent to hostel by giving attention to his studies, and within this duration, your contact through phone, you meetings, and spending holidays at home will not only reduce the sadness but there will also be a betterment in hispersonality.
He disappointed everyone: we are three sisters and one brother. Our father died when our brother was a little kid. Mother had to work and she started a job. Our brother did not get the good friends and we do not know that how he started to take drugs. One of the village boys told that he take drugs (opium). We do not know the names of these things. Sisters who have one brother and mother who have the one son, and he also went senseless what can they do. Our mother wishes that he would have been a girl, he disappointed us a lot. (Saira Rawalpindi)

Suggestion: you did not tell that from how long he addicted to drugs. If you control it at the earlier stage then one can get rid of this, but one becomes addicted to a long extent that mental condition becomes worse than it good to admit the patient in hospital or any reforming center where they end this habit at once. The advice will be effective after the end of drugs addiction and the torments in its ending procedure.

Embarrassment of every time:

I loved a girl very much and we were together for 7 months. I was true for her and she was honest for me. She asked for some days for his exams, but I could not control, and said something to her family and we became notorious. Then she did not contacted me, one and a half year has passed I remember her every day, I could not end her love from my heart. I saw her also for 2 to 3 times in this duration but I could not talk to her. I cry for her every day I left smiling I feel embarrassed. (Nabeel Ikram, Karachi)

Suggestion:

The method to end the bad effect of your bad behavior is to say the good things at write time. You say that I was wrong and the girl and her family are having high characters and they are noble people. Those who are impatient, having less bearing power, rash in anger and hurting other with their anger are not reliable. You only cared for your feeling and now you are only worried about your feelings. Actually your personality is unbalanced. You have depression but not severe.

Court marriage: After having the relation for two years we married in court, our caste, language, and family all were different. Six months has passed after our marriage and now my wife feels annoyed with me. she quarrels with me,  she shows hate as well, she misses her family, despite she was sent to our house from her own house and by her family, we did Nikah secretly and she lived in her house after that and when her family wanted to marry her then she told that she has done nikah already. After sending her to our home they disallowed her to visit them. She talks to other family members except her parents, she left her house but I also left my house we live separately, briefly we are not happy together. (M, Q)

Suggestion: successful marriage does not depend on the long duration of your relation before it, because to take the responsibilities and accepting one another with their flaws after marriage is the real ordeal. How bad the situation is it is must to discuss with peace than to quarrel.  Hate after love is strange. If it is due to the not meeting with family then make her understand that with the passage of time the situation will be good and you will not have any objection about that. Husband and wife can correct their wrongs by understanding their dispassion.